Here’s a really interesting guest post by Jonathan of the Grokkery site. In the following article he discusses a few simple changes you can make to your life in order to make a dramatic change. What I really liked is how he used 30 day trials to develop new habits. This is something I used to do before I left on trip to Europe. But I’ll definitely be implementing this habit again once I’m back in a normal reality. Anyway, I definitely recommend you implement the following techniques…
I passionately, fiercely believe that to change your life, you must begin with self awareness.
I’m not a guru, and I have no magic pill. Instead, I walk the walk in hopes that my authentic example will inspire change in this world.
I’d like to share a story of change in my own life with you.
In May, I conducted a thirty day trial to adopt healthy financial habits. Thirty day trials are concrete commitments for a limited time.
One year after graduating college, I was still holding nearly all the debt that I graduated with. Something needed to change.
Why hadn’t I paid more than minimums on credit cards and student loans? Why hadn’t I established an emergency fund or planned for my financial future?
I had no clarity and I was afraid to know the full truth.
In May, I finally braced myself and took a real look into my financial reality. I pried open my accounts, and embraced the painful truth of consequences.
After taking some deep breaths as I became aware of my reality, I began to feel slightly less burdened. A sneaky, lurking stress I had carried for MONTHS, dissipated.
Armed with awareness, I began the process of taking power back in my relationship to money. With this awareness, it would have been difficult to slide backward into old habits.
This experience clarified something important for me. There are two things that you absolutely need to make a conscious difference in your own life: self awareness and commitments.
With these two tools, anything reasonable is within reach. Quite a few unreasonable wishes are achievable, too.
You can use self awareness and commitments to create any change you desire in your life – you can make an absolutely epic life plan into reality or you can form a new habit.
Do you know why most people don’t end up changing though?
They lack honest self awareness and firm commitments.
Most people have functional self awareness – they are self aware enough to function. With a little prodding, they might be able to paint vague details of the important areas of their lives.
“Functional” self awareness is not enough to get more out of life. If you want real change in your life, the first step is to always be courageously truthful with yourself.
To create this type of self awareness, you must embrace every ugly, beautiful, painful and amazing fact about an area of life that you want to change. You must stop hiding behind facades and excuses.
You know what real commitment looks like. I know that at some point, you have drawn a line in the sand and said, “This is where I make my stand.” That line means that you are 100% in; there are no hedged bets or Plan Bs.
Making a Firm Commitment
How do you make a firm commitment?
The first step is to become clear about your present reality. To get clear, you need a radical and often PAINFUL dose of honest self awareness.
After you know where you are, you must define where you are going. With concrete, concise language, define your vision and create an actionable plan to get there.
Draw your line in the sand.
If you want to up your chances for success, the main ingredient is accountability. Find a mentor or coach. Start a blog and share your journey. Make a promise to someone you won’t let down. Make a wager.
When you put something at stake, you will persevere longer.
Does this mean that you won’t mess up? No.
We all make mistakes; we all fall down. Commit to getting up one more time than you fall down.
My challenge to you is to find an area of your life that you are not 100% satisfied with, and create an absolutely clear picture of where you are.
Begin by getting honest. Ask questions that make you squirm in your seat.
What have you not admitted to yourself? What have you let slide as “okay,” when you wanted more?
Don’t hold back in being honest with yourself.
Self Awareness Simplified
If you would like a guide in creating self awareness in your life, I created the Zero to Self Awareness PDF that you can find by clicking here.
This is a free tool that I have released in order to help you ask the questions that you need to answer, in order to create eye opening self awareness.
Here’s the catch. (There’s always a catch, isn’t there?)
You actually have to answer the questions. There is no magic pill and no easy fix to life’s challenges (though it can be quick).
There is only self awareness and commitment. If you use both of these, you will create a life that inspires.
Jonathan Wondrusch is a storyteller. He blogs and geeks out about saving the world with self awareness at Grokkery. When he’s not blogging, he’s busy being a nerd, animating, and writing stories to change the world.To Your "Internet Lifestyle",