It’s time for the 5th installment of the 30 Day Success Habits Series. (A monthly column where I discuss the habits that I’m trying to develop for the next 30 days)
For the month of May, I’m going to do something that will really push my comfort zone. It’s something that I’ve done in a past, but got out of the habit in the last few years.
But before we get to the habit, let me first explain what’s currently going on in my life…
To be honest, it’s not the easiest thing to be a solo traveler. There are many sites and experiences that would be better shared with other people. So while it’s fun to plan my trip exactly the way I want it to go, I feel like I would be having a lot more fun if I had some friends with me.
Now here’s where things get a little interesting. I’m currently in Spain where not many people speak English and my Spanish is pretty horrendous. As a result, I’ve found it hard to really communicate with everyone around me.
But with all that said, here’s the habit I’m trying to create:
The Habit…Make Three New Friends Each Day
This is going to be a very straight-forward challenge. Each and every day, I’m going to approach three strangers with the intention of trying to create a friendship. While I know that it’s not possible to make three lifelong friends each day, I want to develop the habit (again) of starting conversations with those around me.
Now to make this work, I’ll have to ditch my habit of staying only in hotels and spend some time in hostels where there is more of community vibe to the people staying there. While I like my personal space and I’m not really into younger, party scene, I do think hostels will be an invaluable resource for making connections.
Another strategy is I’m using is to strike up conversations with people I encounter as I visit sites and move throughout the day. And even though my Spanish is awful, I’ve already been able to strike up a conversation with a simple “Tu Hablas Ingles?” and then ask a simple question if they speak a little English. Some of the questions I’m asking:
- What is fun to do around here?
- What places have you traveled to?
- Do you have any suggestions for what I should see?
- What’s a good place to eat? (or where to get Tapas, see a Flamenco show, etc.)
- Viene áqui mucho? (Do you come here often?)
Okay, that last one was a joke.
The point of this exercise is to start connecting with the people around me. Sure, I might already know the answers to most of the questions I’ll ask. What I’m trying to achieve is to develop the habit where I can quickly form friendship with strangers.
Wish me luck!Take Action. Get Results.