Some of the happiest, most successful people I know also have the highest self esteem. It’s almost as if the way they feel about themselves coincides with their general outlook on life. In general, people with healthy levels of self esteem are usually able to follow through with their plans, meet their goals and face the challenges that life throws their way better than people suffering from low self esteem.
High Self Esteem can Help You Succeed
In layman’s terms, self esteem is a person’s overall opinion of their own worth. A lot of egotistical people in the world definitely have high self esteem (think of reality TV “celebrities” who think they deserve special treatment just because they’re popular at the moment) but it really is possible to have high self esteem without being arrogant.
Healthy self esteem can help you succeed in business and in life in more ways than one. If you think highly of yourself, you’ll probably be able to able to appreciate constructive criticism, learn from your own mistakes, and laugh at yourself when something goes wrong—among many other things.
Simple Strategy for Building Your Self Esteem
We’ve all experienced low levels of confidence at one point or another, whether it was after getting turned down for a date or doing something wrong at work. It happens, and I’ve found that when I’m feeling down it’s hard to do anything because it’s easier to sit around and feel sorry for myself.
If you’re interested in building your self esteem, you need to start thinking about all that’s right with you, not all that’s wrong. You’ve made mistakes before, but you’re not a walking failure.
- Concentrate on your strengths, not on your weaknesses. That’s an easy one.
- Compete to improve yourself, not to beat someone else. If you’re trying to run a marathon or gain a bigger following on your website, do it for yourself. Don’t do it because you think you can beat a friend (or an enemy.)
- Don’t be afraid to be assertive. There’s nothing wrong with taking a stance on your beliefs or saying “no” if you don’t want to do something. Being assertive doesn’t need to mean you’re a jerk.
- Face your fears. Ask yourself, “What’s the worst that could happen?” If you’re presented with a new opportunity or something that freaks you out, stop and think before you decide to skip it. Think about anything and everything that could possibly happen—even the worst possible outcome probably isn’t that bad.
- Try to avoid speaking badly about anything. Once you’re on a kick of talking trash about people and places and things, it’s hard to stop. Quit being so negative!
- Hang out with people who appreciate you for you are. Some conceited people (yep, people who do have high levels of self esteem) get off on putting other people down. They’re nit-picky and like to see “friends” fail. That’s not the type of people you want to be around, especially if you’re working on building your self esteem.
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