Don’t Ever Settle

Today we have a great post provided by ShortHairDiva. As you’ve heard me in my articles about outsourcing, she does some of the writing for this site.  So I’m glad that we’re able to finally show off some of her writing.  Hopefully you’ll find this article to be really inspirational…

For the past two years, I’ve participated in the National Walk for Epilepsy in Washington, D.C. with my family to raise money for the Epilepsy Foundation. This year, I decided to get my hair dyed purple before the fundraiser to help raise awareness of epilepsy because I am one of three million Americans that live with the condition— just as pink is the color for breast cancer awareness, purple is the color for epilepsy awareness.  I’ve been a brunette, a blonde, and a redhead, but I liked the way my purple hair turned out so much that I’ve kept it up since March.

The other day I went out for dinner and the waitress said, “Wow! You have purple hair!”

I was expecting some sort of crazy remark to follow – I’m getting used to them— but she said, “That’s great! It looks so cool. Most people don’t have purple hair, but you do! That’s the attitude we all need, do what you want and don’t care what others think.”

To be honest, I was a little bit taken aback because most people just give me strange looks, turn to whoever they’re with, and whisper something. But you know what? This woman was right. All too often, people do what they think they should do, not what they want to. I’ve made that mistake far too many times. One major example would have to be the way I somehow wound up wasting four years of my life to earn a degree in a field that I don’t ever want to work in.

At the end of April, I was given the opportunity to interview Greg Grunberg, of NBC’s Heroes, and Dr. Brien (yes, it is really spelled with an E instead of an A) Smith, Medical Director of the Comprehensive Epilepsy Program at the Henry Ford Hospital in Detroit, Michigan. This interview was able to take place thanks to Epilepsy Advocate, a great community of people and their families living with epilepsy, and I’m still thankful that I was given the opportunity. Here’s a link to this interview with Greg Grunberg.

The one thing I will always remember from my conversation with Greg and Dr. Smith would have to be their final bit of advice: never accept an answer if you don’t feel it’s right.

My original neurologist felt that my seizures were under control “well enough” that there was no need to adjust my medication. The same doctor also told me that I shouldn’t have children due to my condition. If I had accepted those answers, I’d probably still be having seizures regularly and my daughter wouldn’t be here, either.

I finally decided to visit a new neurologist to get a second opinion. I’ve been seizure-free for two and a half years now, and I have a beautiful little girl.

Before I leave you today, I’m going to pass along the advice I received from Greg Grunberg and Dr. Smith. You should always have the ability to know what your options are, whether it’s in regards to a medical condition or any other aspect of your life. So go ahead and get your hair dyed purple if you think it looks cool— but more importantly, don’t ever settle!

Steve’s Note: I think this post has a great overall message about any obstacle in life.  Whenever you hit a hurdle, it’s important to never give in… even if people are telling you that you can’t do something.

Anyway, I highly recommend you take a look at Melissa’s ShortHairDiva blog and hire her if you need freelance writing for your online business.  After working with her for about six months, I can honestly say she is one of the most talented and reliable writers I’ve ever had a privilege of hiring.

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8 thoughts on “Don’t Ever Settle”

  1. Thanks so much for sharing my thoughts right here on your site, Steve! I appreciate it.

    I also agree that it’s important to do our best to get through whatever hurdles life throws our way. Even though most of the time it’s easier said than done, I’m trying my best.
    .-= ShortHairDiva´s last blog ..Tampa Social Media Day =-.

    • No thank you… I think this is a great article that shows a real example of what it’s like to get past something where most people would give up. I’m sure the readers will learn a lot from it.

  2. I think your purple hair looks really cool, too 🙂

    When I was in high school (a very long time ago) my best friend dyed her hair electric blue and boy did she get attention whereever she went. I think it’s great that you showed your support for the Walk in that way. My sister has epilepsy, although she hasn’t had a seizure in years, and it’s important to get the message out. I believe that you should be your own health advocate and not just accept a doctor’s opinion – they are not infallible. Good for you for deciding your own future and not being limited by one person’s opinion.

    .-= Karen´s last blog ..Warning- These Emotions May Be Affecting You More Than You Think =-.

    • Thank you Karen!

      Someone I know also has blue hair, and she warned me that everyone would stare. She was definitely right!

      I’m sorry to hear about your sister. As I mentioned, I haven’t had a seizure in over two years now but my life has changed in more ways than one. I’m sure your sister is the same way!
      .-= ShortHairDiva´s last blog ..Tampa Social Media Day =-.

  3. Good for you. As someone who’s had many shades of purple (and pink, blue, pillarbox red etc) hair over the years, and with some pretty odd shaped cuts, I can relate to the stares and comments. Some people think you do it just for the attention, but my hair is always the first thing to show when I’m starting to get bored.
    My attitude is always, “It’s just hair, it grows back.” and it’s mine to do with as I please. There may be some aspects of life it’s not healthy to take that attitude with, but on the whole I believe having a strong sense of ownership also encourages a strong sense of responsibility.
    It’s great to see how you took ownership of your condition and were rewarded with something so precious as your little girl. Wear your purple with pride 😉
    .-= Gail´s last blog ..The Swipe File =-.

    • Gail, thank you for taking the time to read my post and respond. I appreciate it! By the way, your previous hair colors all sound excellent to me!

      You’re right, being “selfish” and not caring what others think isn’t appropriate in many aspects of life, but in this case I don’t see any harm, either.
      .-= ShortHairDiva´s last blog ..Tampa Social Media Day =-.

  4. I love what I’m reading here … Don’t settle. Don’t be afraid to be yourself. Keep going even if others think what you want is not possible. For me, there is no other choice except to follow such a path. It’s my life and no one can live it better than me. 🙂 Thanks for the inspiring words!

  5. Hi short Hair Diva and Steve:

    “Never Accept an answer if you don’t feel it’s right” It is going to stay with me all day today.
    I will think about it few times. Not because the words are strong but because you remembered them and still went on to do what you had to do and got results. What a wonderful feeling to hear this from you. Congratulations to think right and to come out of a terrible situation. I am proud of you.

    Such a remarkable post. I simply loved it.
    Hey short Hair Diva I wish you all the success in future also because you are a determined lady and you know how to live life.

    Steve and You both have a wonderful day.

    Fran Aslam

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