When you meet someone new, you’ll ultimately wind up talking about yourself. So what do you tell people? My guess is that you start out with your name and occupation, but you don’t go into a lot of details—after all, who knows if this guy (or girl) is a real nut job? You wouldn’t want a total stranger knowing your secrets, and besides, we’re all so used to talking about our jobs to describe ourselves that it’s pretty common.
If you could tell someone anything and everything about yourself, do you even know what you’d say? Who are you? Do you even know who you are?
We all Grow and Change
Understanding yourself takes time, and it’s not always easy. Ever think back to your teenage years and wonder “Why the hell did I do that?” about some particularly dumb stunt you pulled or a crazy decision you made? We all go through phases in our lives because it’s normal, and we all have to learn from our mistakes. If you hadn’t gone through those things, you probably wouldn’t be who you are today.
Which leads back to my original question … who are you?
You’re a Whole Person
I receive a lot of emails from people that “want to know my secret” because I finally have a career that I love (working for myself) and I’m currently travelling through Europe (something I’ve wanted to do for a long time.)
I offer a lot of advice right here on this website regarding how I got to this point in my life, but in order to live the life that you want to lead, you’ve got to understand yourself— you, the total package.
You’re George, not George the Accountant. You’re Becky, not Becky the Teacher. If you’re in a relationship, you’re a lot more than half of a couple, and if you’re a parent, you’re much more than Mom or Dad.
Even though you have specific responsibilities at work / to your spouse or partner / to your children …. you’re still a person with interests and hobbies. Don’t forget that. All too often, people do. It’s a reason that a lot of people get depressed when their job ends, they get divorced, or their children go off to college.
Know What you Want Out of Life
My challenge to you is this: start thinking about yourself a lot more often than you do now. Get to know yourself better. After all, you’ve got friends (most likely, anyway) that enjoy your company. Why do they like being around you?
• Figure out what you want from life.
• Accept your strengths and weaknesses.
• Know what bothers you and what makes you happy.
These are just a few quick suggestions to get the ball rolling. What else should we do to understand ourselves? Give me some ideas!
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