Today I’d like to give a quick follow-up to the post on how to skyrocket your self-motivation. One of the things I touched upon was the idea of being confident in your ability to achieve a goal. Success starts by believing in ourselves. In a way it’s a self fulfilling prophecy. When you say that something can’t be done, it becomes easy to give up on a goal and quit.
The question is – “How do you become more confident in yourself?” Unfortunately this isn’t a question that can be answered in a simple blog post… in fact you could write an entire course on this subject. With that said, I’d like to talk about two quick techniques for increasing your self-confidence…
#1 – Remember your Past Achievements
First, I’d like to talk about the importance of remembering your prior achievements. We’ve all accomplished something in our lives. The problem is it’s easy to forget everything we’ve done when trying something new. People often feel unconfident because they’re afraid of looking foolish or embarrassing themselves. The trick is to use what you’ve done in the past as a reminder that you can develop confidence in a new skill.
I recommend making a list of your accomplishments. These could be anything that makes you feel good and proud of what you’ve done in life. This list is for your eyes only – So don’t feel like you have to exclude anything simply because it might not impress others.
As an example, here is what I would include on my list:
- Finished a marathon at age 16
- Was a captain of two sports in high school & college
- Graduated college with psychology degree, then earned a master’s degree in business management
- Served two years in the United States Air Force before being honorably discharged
- Built two successful Internet businesses and now currently working on my third
- Traveled through Europe on my own for seven months
Once you’re written everything down on a list like this, review it a daily basis. I know this sounds corny, but these are great reminders of past successes. This exercise definitely gives a psychological boost during those times of doubt.
#2- Remember that Confidence is a Skill
Think back to when you first learned to drive a car. I bet you were nervous as hell. Perhaps you felt like one wrong move would lead to a disastrous car crash. Personally, I was extremely shaky during the first few weeks of driving – Maybe because I accidentally drove my brother’s car through the garage when I was younger (Long story).
Now think about what it’s like to drive a car today. You probably do it on autopilot – Without even thinking about how you’re doing it. You just get into a car, turn it on and go.
One of the secrets to confidence is repeated exposure. When first learning a skill, it’s hard to feel confident. But once you’ve had a lot of practice things become second nature. You no longer worry about being good at a skill because you’ve done it successfully dozens of times before.
What about failure? Well, I believe in the concept of “failing forward.” There’s nothing wrong with failing. In fact, I think one of the best ways to learn a skill is to do it badly a number of times. I know it’s not fun to feel like a novice with a new skill. But if you can get over that sense of embarrassment, failure is a great way to learn something.
How do YOU Become More Confident?
In this post, I gave two techniques to be more confident in yourself. My question is how confident are you? Were you born with a natural amount of confidence? Or have you had to work on this area of your life? If so, what tricks can you recommend to others?
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