I would consider myself to be pretty generous to my friends and family. Whenever someone needs help, I’m usually there to lend support. In my opinion, it’s through our relationships that we get the really good things in life.
Advice About Starting an Online Business
In the last few years, I’ve talked to a number of people in my life about my online business. A lot of them are in the proverbial dead-end job or simply have a desire to earn extra income on the side. Naturally, they’ve asked for advice about how to get started with Internet Marketing.
A few years back, I was always ready to help anyone who asked. I would spend hour after hour creating blueprints and emailing them with lists of ideas. Unfortunately, all my effort was wasted. Usually the response I would get was a vague, “I’ll take a look at this when I’m not busy.”
I can honestly say that I truly care for my friends and family. However it REALLY pisses me off when I waste my time helping people who won’t lift a finger to help themselves. That’s because I truly believe that…
…Your Time IS Money
I’ll admit it. I’m way too regimented with my time. The reason I’m this way is because I’ve learned that you need to be a little strict when it comes to running your own business.
So the time I spend helping my friends (or family) could be time I dedicate towards growing my business and creating long-term success. The end result is I lose money whenever I try to help somebody.
That’s why I like to do a “mini-test” with anyone who asks for help. Let me explain…
“Mini-Testing” Your Friends and Family
Nowadays I follow a very simple formula with people who ask for advice about starting an online business.
First, I’m very honest with them about what it’s like. I explain that it requires a lot of time and dedication. I’m clear that it’ll require a number of sacrifices. And it’ll probably take at least a few months before they see any results from their efforts.
Next, I send them an entire eCourse that helped me learn about the process of affiliate marketing. I tell them that I paid almost $1400 in 2006 for this information. But they’re going to get it for free.
Finally I follow-up with an email after a week; asking what they thought about the course. The sad fact is most of the time I’ll get back some lame excuse about why they don’t have time to read it.
Separating the “Doers” from the “Tire-Kickers”
I do this test for one simple reason… It helps me identify the “tire-kickers” in my life. These are the people that hem and haw about wanting a better life, but won’t take that simple first step towards helping themselves.
In my head, I’m sending them the keys to financial success. And in theirs, they see that it involves a four letter word they probably hate…WORK.
By creating this mini-test, I’m quickly able to assess the people who are willing to take action in their lives. It also saves me from wasting my efforts on someone who probably won’t succeed.
I know this sounds a bit brutal, but the harsh reality is most people are unwilling to help themselves. They might make noises about wanting success, but they’re usually not ready to shift their mindset towards making a significant change in their lives.
Testing the People in Your Life
I’m going to make an assumption here. If you’re a regular reader of this blog, then I can make the educated guess that you have (or you’re working towards) success in your life. In all likelihood, I’m pretty certain that people have approached you at some point asking for your help.
My advice is simple. Make these people prove that they deserve your attention. As I said before, your time is money. Sure, it’s nice to help your loved ones. But you should only do so when they show some level of dedication towards helping themselves.
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