It seems like a lot of my blog readers visit my site because they want to learn about the way I run my online business and how I’ve managed to spend an eight month period traveling through Europe. Without sounding like a cocky know-it-all, I also think I’m doing pretty well for myself, but I know that there’s always room for improvement.
Now that I’m nearing the end of my travels, I’ve started to think about the life I’ll be picking up when I return home to New Jersey. I plan on putting as much effort into my personal life as I do for my business and travels. I’ve had a lot of time to think over here, and a lot of things frustrated me. If you’re also feeling frustrated with your life, look into something called zero based thinking—it’s what I’m planning to use to improve myself.
We Make our Own Decisions
New readers might not know this, but that the main reason I started this blog in the first place was to help stay sane after a fairly traumatic breakup. The relationship ended horribly and I was really upset for quite awhile, but looking back on that phase of my life now, I realize that I ended up in that completely miserable situation because of specific bad decisions that I made. It was a relationship made up of two people, but winding up “stuck” and ending things on a bad note was no one’s fault but my own.
My head’s a lot clearer these days and I can now see that I’ve actually made quite a few poor decisions over the past few years—in terms of relationships, my business and my life in general.
It’s time to quit catching bad decisions after the fact, and to help remedy this I’m going to implement zero based thinking into all of my decisions from here on.
Zero Based Thinking: Would Your Decisions be the Same Today?
A lot of people have the attitude that you should finish what you start, but ask yourself a simple question: If I had not made this decision, knowing what I now know, would I make it?
- If you hadn’t started a relationship with your current partner— knowing what you know now—would you have moved beyond the first date?
- If you hadn’t accepted the job you have at the moment—knowing what you know now—would you have shown up for work the first day?
- If you hadn’t started a business with one of your relatives—knowing what you know now—would you have agreed to partner up with them?
If your answer is “no,” then your goal should be to get out of the situation while you still can. That’s what’s called zero based thinking. Cut your losses now and try something else.
It’s Time to Clean Up my Life
When my trip is done and I’m “back to reality,” every single action I take will fall under the principle of zero based thinking. I’m literally going to clear up my life by cleaning out everything that’s not working for me.
This means I’m going to toss out most of my possessions (they’re in storage right now anyway, so how much do I really need them?) I’m going to end certain interpersonal relationships that aren’t working out. I’m going to cut out certain aspects of my business that are no longer needed, and I’ve got to eliminate a number of bad habits.
It might sound harsh, but I’ve learned that it’s not fair to put yourself through something that you know is not working for you. Life is short enough as it is, so why bother dealing with things that are literally in the way?
Apply Zero Based Thinking to Your Life
I’m going to leave you today by urging you to zero base your own life. It’s definitely a frightening idea when you first think about it, but ask yourself the following questions:
- If all of your possessions were destroyed or taken away from you and you had to start from scratch, what would you buy? The objects that you wouldn’t miss probably don’t need to be in your life anyway. Get rid of the useless junk that you keep hanging on to.
- If you had all the time in the world with absolutely no commitments whatsoever, what would you choose to do? Those things are probably activities that should include in your schedule—stop doing the things that are of no benefit whatsoever, things that only waste your time.
Challenge yourself to apply zero based thinking to these and other aspects of your life. Question everything. Stop doing stuff because you started to; stop doing things because you’re embarrassed to say “no.” It’s your life—clean it up and make it what you want it to be.Take Action. Get Results.