Since becoming an adult I’ve met people that are completely happy with themselves and others that seem uncomfortable in their own bodies. I think that most of us fall somewhere in the middle, but I’m going to warn you that it’s easy to look for happiness in the wrong places.
Money makes some people pretty happy, at least temporarily. If you’re an unhappy person, though, the novelty of what you’ve bought will eventually wear off and you’ll start feeling miserable again. Losing weight can definitely make you feel better too, but being thinner doesn’t necessarily translate into instant happiness. You probably get my point so I won’t bother to provide any more examples, but I am going to offer some tricks I’ve picked up on how to be happy with yourself.
Keep these 8 Happiness Tricks Up Your Sleeve
If a formula for instant happiness existed, I’d probably bottle it up and sell it. (Can you imagine how happy that money would make me initially?!) Most people want to be happy because frankly, feeling lousy isn’t much fun. Before I go any further I’ve got to remind you that happiness comes from within. It’s a state of mind; it’s a choice we can all make. If you want to be happy with yourself, you can. Just consider the following:
1. Be yourself.
Quit trying to morph yourself into someone you’re not. It’s okay to be unique; it’s okay to be you. In fact, your family and friends would prefer it. So would I.
2. Stop playing the “If only” game.
Quit telling yourself that you’d be happier “if only” you had something in your possession or “if only” you were doing something regularly. This habit will make you grumpy and jealous of people around you—happy people. Instead, focus on what you do have and what you can do—right now, in the present.
3. Clean up your environment.
It’s hard to feel happy when you’re surrounded by junk. Clean up your house or apartment and get rid of or donate things you no longer use.
4. Clean up your relationships.
Stop clinging to friendships that aren’t working out just for the sake of having friends. If you’re unhappy whenever you’re around someone but the thought of ending the relationship makes you feel guilty, get over it and stop seeing them. You’ll feel better soon enough.
5. Stop living in the past.
Sure, you might have been your school’s star football player or the highest-paid manager at work, but if those parts of your life are over, let them be over. Memories are fine, but if you constantly live in the past you’ll never learn what the future has in store for you.
6. Don’t take things so personally.
Take a deep breath and repeat after me: “Not everything in the world is my fault.”
The sooner you accept this, the sooner you’ll be on the road to happiness. Other people’s problems are their problems, not yours.
7. Learn to laugh at yourself.
Don’t let mistakes ruin your life. If you do something wrong, learn to laugh at yourself and move on. You’ll feel a whole lot better once you can do this.
8. Try your best.
Just as no one is happy 100% of the time, no one is perfect. When you’re working on a project or trying to reach a goal, try your best. Sometimes things don’t work as planned, but if you honestly did all you could and you know you gave your all, that’s all the matters.
Certainly not the formula to happiness in a bottle, but still some decent advice. Try to incorporate some (or all!) of these tricks into your own life if you’re trying to learn how to make yourself happy.Take Action. Get Results.