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You Are NOT Special

by Steve Scott | Join Him On Facebook

Most three-year-olds think that the entire world revolves around them. After all, it seems that way because Mommy gives them a cookie if they want one, and they get to watch Elmo on TV all day long just because it’s their favorite show.

Who cares what anyone else wants to see, right? Elmo is better. That’s just how it works. This behavior is excusable because they’re children. They simply don’t know any better.

Teenagers are actually another good example. They should know better, but they still expect things from their parents because … well, their friends all have the coolest new phones and computers and clothes and cars, so they should have it all, too … right?

Unfortunately, I’ve come in contact with far too many people who have that same attitude at the age of twenty, thirty or forty. People who assume that they’re better than the rest of us and feel that they deserve things because … well, I’m not really sure why.


Demanding Special Attention…

You know what I’m talking about. Celebrities demand special attention because they’re famous. Women whose husbands earn enough money for them to stay at home with the kids turn their noses up at the “working mothers”.

Sales associates at Nordstrom have a different air about them than the ones at Sears. Other people do it too … they should get what they want just because they want it and deserve it.

Are you nodding your head in agreement, or are you starting to feel a little bit funny? If you’re getting embarrassed because you know that you’re guilty of that behavior … good.

You should be embarrassed.

The World Owes You NOTHING

Far, far too many people go through life thinking that the world owes them something. It’s not only young people or celebrities. You’ve either met people with this problem or you have it yourself.

It’s almost as if certain people feel that they’re somehow entitled to have everything handed to them just because they’re alive and breathing. It’s called a sense of entitlement.

Whatever they have isn’t good enough, and they need things to be bigger, faster, better … NOW. Right this instant. Just because they want it and that means they deserve it.

Sorry folks, but that’s not the way the world works.

The World Owes You NOTHING

There’s nothing wrong with wanting things. After all, I’m pretty gung-ho about having goals in life. But if you want things to happen instantly, without any ounce of effort whatsoever, you’re living in a dream world.

If you want something, you have to go get it yourself. Don’t expect it to happen to you just because you think it should. That’s childish. You’re not in preschool anymore.

I’ve talked about the law of attraction in previous posts. In case you missed them, the theory behind the law of attraction is that the Universe allows both conscious and unconscious thoughts to affect things … basically, great things will happen to you if you want them to happen.

If you sit and wait for the universe to take charge, it’s possible to get whatever you want by thinking. It’s the basis of the book The Secret and the movie of the same name. It’s been discussed on Oprah and Ellen, but is it realistic?

Success Takes Hard Work

There’s nothing wrong with having plans and goals and wanting to be successful, but success takes hard work. At the moment, I’m about to travel through Europe because my internet marketing business has gotten to the point that I can earn a living without being chained to a desk all day, and it took effort to get this far.

To get what you want out of life, you need a life plan. You need to come up with goals, write them down, and cross them off the list as you go along. You need to work hard in order to achieve those goals before you can cross them off the list It won’t be easy at first. It takes effort. (That’s why I highly recommend you check out my free report, “Life Plan Mastery”.)

I didn’t get this far in life simply because I wanted to and thought about it. Oh, I definitely wanted to succeed and I thought about it an awful lot, but the world didn’t hand me anything. It was mostly my doing.

If you’re annoyed right now because you think I’m being too harsh in this post, feel free to ignore me … but perhaps you will take some advice from Mark Twain: “Don’t go around saying the world owes you a living. The world owes you nothing. It was here first.”

Take Action. Get Results.



{ 13 comments }

Ray

Amen to every sentiment in your post. Whenever I am dumb enough to mention it, I catch 20 kinds of hell when I tell people who are dissatisfied with their lives that everyone is exactly where they want to be. If they really wanted to change their circumstances, they would. No one is responsible for where they are in life except for themselves. If you want to live in different circumstances than you are presently, then make the changes that are required…no one can do it for you.

P.S. Love the site.
.-= Ray´s last blog ..Link Building – Traffic From Search Engines =-.

Steve Scott

Yes, people do not want to hear about why it’s their fault when they complain about something. Most of the time, your average person wants to hear that ‘it’s okay and there is nothing you can do to fix your situation.’ I say it’s B.S. and that you CAN control most of what happens in your life.

Ralph

darn. You stop this right not/ I am special. My mommy said so.
.-= Ralph´s last blog ..50’s Nostalgia – Triumph TR3 =-.

Ralph

And I live in California where everybody is special.
.-= Ralph´s last blog ..50’s Nostalgia – Triumph TR3 =-.

Steve Scott

Haha… so I’ve heard. Unfortunately this seems to be a problem here in New Jersey as well.

Ben

This is really true Steve.

There are too many people who believe the world owes them a favour and that if they want something enough that the universe will just offer it up.

That simply isn’t the case. You have to create the future you want to lead and go work hard to make it happen.
.-= Ben´s last blog ..Friday’s Homework =-.

Steve Scott

My point exactly. Nothing is going to be handed to you. Sure, there are some people who will help you, but you should never rely just on their help.

David Black

I’m always saying you gotta grab life by the balls. This is my vulgar way of making the same point as you here Steve. 🙂
.-= David Black´s last blog ..How To Date An Older Woman (Cougar Dating) =-.

Steve Scott

Definitely a succinct way of describing the personal philosophy I’m trying to develop.

Uzma

So right Steve. I’ve never thought like that. I think we all want to be special, in that we are all individuals with unique talents and spirit. Yet like you say, that isn’t enough. We need to work with our talents. We need to focus on value based giving, not just materialistic getting. Thank u for this post.
.-= Uzma´s last blog ..Learning in the rain-Love- joy-courage and the moment =-.

lovin4nuttin

Wow! This was so true about children and people in general. I agree with you about the world owes us nothing, however can i say its the world but people you help and love that should at least acknowledge your existence? Just my feelings. Thanks Steve

Steve Scott

For sure. It is important that the people you are close with in particular should take time out to show you they care. And strangers even to a certain extent. My problem is basically with the sense of “entitlement” that some people have. They assume they are owed something because they are alive and this is not so.

It is really karma imo. Do good things and good things will naturally come back.

The entitlement side goes: Where are my good things? I want them now!

natalie

Steve, I’ve been looking for this blog since Friday when I was stuck in a traffic jam just like every body else, but one guy, just one guy decided to lose it as if he were the only one stuck in the jam.

You said what needed to be said and quite eloquently. I am surprised there aren’t more people blogging about how self centered we have become as a society lately.

I’m 45 years old, old enough to remember a time when people realized they had to pay their dues. I had a college degree and was earning $10 an hour. I had to work my way up. Now days ppl will get a BA and then an MBA with the hopes of earning $80K right out of college. Forget working to earn years of experience which you in turn apply to the job.

I do believe in manifestation, visualization and the law of attraction and I have written an ebook about it with an emphasis on TAKING ACTION. I certainly agree with you on that point.

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